Why are women hash-tagging themselves with the tag “imperfect beauty?” Is there such a thing as PERFECT beauty?
YOUR standard of beauty is not MY standard of beauty is not HER standard of beauty and not HIS standard of beauty and THANK GOD — life is so much more interesting this way.
NOBODY likes to be told what is beautiful. But the airbrushed, flawless look of models and celebrities in magazines has been the norm for a long, long time. Here’s my personal fave photo of the “marketing illusion” that shows what a skilled Photoshop artist can do:
The photo on the right sells. I GET it. But it doesn’t take into consideration the women striving to obtain the beauty on the right. Or what they feel when they look in the mirror and they don’t see it. Allright, MADONNA might be an outdated example, but you get my point.
Remember Lauren Hutton and her gapped front teeth? Instead of following advise to close her gap, she kept it exactly as it was and made a career for herself that lasted 4 decades with a unique signature smile. God forbid Cindy Crawford get rid of her facial mole, as suggested to her by industry “experts.” It made her stand apart.
And not that I’m in the same league as these two ladies, but when I did some acting and modeling in Chicago, I had a smiling headshot and the retoucher suggested I remove my little smile line above my lip. Really? That’s how I smile. That’s what my smile looks like. Why would I take out that smile line and then get hired for a gig and then I smile and then look NOTHING like my photo?
Opinions are a dime a dozen. Stay true to YOURSELF. You are the only one who can make you feel beautiful.
What’s the BIG DEAL with BEING REAL? Can we STOP the judgement and nit-picking over looks for a change?
Think of your life in terms of perfection and imperfection. Would you want a perfect fairytale movie life or one with a little twists and turns that makes it a little interesting? I’d take the latter any day. The moments in BETWEEN the movie moments….PLUS the movie moments….those are cool…especially the epic kisses.
Beauty comes in all kinds of forms. I’m just saying EMBRACE YOURSELF and the little things that make YOU you, cuz nobody else has those things you OBSESS over. In FACT, other people WANT what you OBSESS over. They WISH they had it as “BAD” as you!
Did I mention stop OBSESSING? And STOP COMPARING yourself to the magazine photos. Nobody lives in a catalog….and if we all did, we’d all look absolutely fabulous and be incredibly boring. God knows if I lived in a catalog, I would have an extremely better wardrobe and be able to effortlessly wear 4 inch heels all day at age 50. Trust me, wearing pumps at TWENTY-NINE, it’s a LOT easier.
Oops, they don’t call them PUMPS anymore, do they?
Why Can’t “Imperfect Beauty” Just Be “Beauty”?
And here’s a TREND I would like to see STOP: putting ourselves DOWN and pointing out our physical flaws to others! Case in point, I’ve been to several anti-aging events where the woman in front of me is beautiful and she keeps talking about the small imperfections on her face that make her feel bad, but I can’t even really SEE those imperfections.
STOP calling it IMPERFECT beauty when you post a selfie of yourself on your blog with no makeup. Let’s CHANGE the norm and make the PHOTOSHOPPED beauty the imperfect beauty.
Let’s help each other and inspire each other to be more confident, despite the little things we tend to focus on. Let’s see the beauty in each other. And especially see the beauty within ourselves.
HERE’s an INSPIRATION: meet THIS gal who is out there in all her glory and showing herself and shining all that she has for the world to see. Please let her be your example when you are concerned about a little loose skin, or a wrinkle here or there:
This is Chantelle Brown, who you might recognize from an old show called America’s Next Top Model. She has a skin condition called vitiligo. And here’s what she has to say about it– check out her positivity!!
A famous quote:
“There is nothing more rare, nor more beautiful, than a woman being unapologetically herself; comfortable in her perfect imperfection. To me, that is the true essence of beauty.”
― Steve Maraboli, Unapologetically You: Reflections on Life and the Human Experience
Okay, there’s that word “imperfection” again. But at least, the message is a little closer.
Loving yourself and loving the beauty that you bring to the world in all forms is key. Embrace your unique traits and shine.
SHINE, SHINE, SHINE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
~ Let’s Do This,